Do you have those days when you are looking for a bit of inspiration?
I was at a get together with some people I mostly didn’t know a few nights ago and I was telling a fellow attendee about a trip I’m taking in September. I’m going on the trip with a tour instead of going solo. It’s been a while since I’ve done that but I’m looking forward to it.
After I finished my comment, the fellow attendee said to me “So you’re not comfortable being alone then?”
I’m not going to lie – I was a little taken aback by that reply. His question didn’t make any sense to me. My response back to him was “I’ve lived alone for almost 15 years. I’m by myself many hours each day and I travel solo quite often as well. Trust me, I’m comfortable being alone.”
I can’t help but wonder why I can’t stop thinking about that comment and worse, why I’m letting it bother me? But before we judge, the guy was actually very nice and friendly. He and his wife are lovely. I think he just said something I wasn’t expecting.
Of course I WISH I wasn’t alone so much. If you had asked me 20 years ago what my life would be like right now, my current situation wouldn’t have been my answer.
However, it is what it is.
Overall, I’m doing pretty well. I have a job that’s steady and pays the bills. I’m blessed with amazing friends all over the world and I’m close to my family. I live in a great city and bought a small but perfect-for-me townhome a couple of years ago. I’ve managed to keep my dog alive for almost eight years now. I also get to do lots of fun things and travel often too.
But I know what’s missing, or at least what people think I’m missing. The truth is – I’m really bad at dating. I get bored or frustrated and lose interest really quickly. I end things so I don’t “waste my time.” And honestly, it’s been a while since I’ve met a guy who has a good job and is motivated with some hobbies who doesn’t live at home with his parents. True story.
My sister used to tell me all the time that I’m “too picky” but I’ve been privy to enough bad relationships to know I don’t want one of those. I also don’t want to have a baby on my own. So in the meantime, I’m just doing the solo life thing and trying to make the most of my alone time. Some days, I enjoy it more than others.
While I was home alone most of this past weekend, I worked on a blog post about Hawaii that I was going to publish today. It’s a decent post but it’s uninspiring to me right now, which is something I’ve struggled with a lot when it comes to this blog recently.
So I’ve decided to turn to you, my amazing readers. I am looking for a bit of inspiration. What kinds of things would you like me to write about? It can be anything – not just travel. What about me or my life intrigues you that you’d like to learn more about? Don’t be shy, anything is on the table. Leave a comment below or send me a message. I’d love to hear from you.
Subjects I’ve considered include…
- Single life in the city and maybe even dating stories.
- My never ending quest to find non toxic sunscreen that works well and skincare products that are gentle but effective (especially for my rosacea)
- Tips for hosting and cooking for a party (many of which are from my mom who really is the hostess with the mostest)
- What it’s like to be on the board of a nonprofit
- How to find nonprofits that match your passions
- Stories from my book club and/or cookbook club – and why you should have these in your life too!
- My favorite books
- What it was like to grow up on a farm
Of course I’ll still post lots of travel things too. I love telling those stories and hopefully, inspiring you to get out and travel on your own.
In the meantime, tell me what you want to read and know! Also, for all of you who are wondering, I’m heading to Croatia and Slovenia with Trafalgar in September. While most of the trip will be pretty structured with not a lot of free time, I’d love to hear your suggestions if you’ve been there and have them. I’d love to have excuses to sneak away and be comfortable on my own when I can.
Finally, while I haven’t been posting a lot lately, I am having a great summer. Check out a few of the highlights in the photos below.