How to Make Friends as an Adult

Have you looked at your life recently and wondered what happened to all of the friends you had in your 20’s and early 30’s? If you’re like me, many of them have gotten married and had babies. Others have moved away for new jobs or to be closer to their families. Other friendships just naturally drifted away. The thought of making new friends as an adult can be hard, especially if you are single. There are ways to do it though. Here are my tips for how to make friends as an adult.

How to Make Friends as an Adult

Travel Solo

Stick with me on this one. I know this sounds counter-intuitive but it works and it is a great way to make friends as an adult, particularly if you are single and female. I started traveling solo in my early 30’s and have met some amazing friends along the way. Solo travelers tend to naturally find each other, particularly when traveling through Europe. Sign up for food tours, stay in a hostel, visit museums and take the train or ferry versus driving a car on your own. These are all great places to meet other solo travelers and make friends while traveling.


Volunteering for an organization whose mission you are passionate about is another way to make friends as an adult. Women’s education is one cause I am very passionate about. By doing a quick Google search, I was able to find a local organization that educates girls in Kenya and Senegal. I contacted them and am now a member of their Audit and Finance committee. Everyone on the committee and board are volunteers and I have made several friends through our mutual passion for women’s education.

Take a Class

This option could be as simple as taking a cooking, writing or pottery class to starting a degree program at a local college or university. I have an unquenchable desire to learn new things and am always looking for answers to all of the things I question and wonder about. A few years ago, I earned my MBA and one of my closest friends today came from that experience. I have also met great women from sewing classes and various exercise classes I have taken over the years. A great way to find classes is by checking with your local part district or library.

Adopt a Dog

This one comes with a big commitment but if you are up for it, it can be a great way to make friends as an adult. Walking a dog gets you out of the house regularly and it’s a great way to have conversations with other dog owners who are out walking their dogs at the same time. You can also go to dog parks, where you will find other dog owners. The connections made from a dog park is where I met many of the ladies who eventually became members of the book club I was in. One of the women who started it started spreading the word at the dog park she took her pup to and ended up recruiting four or five other women from those meetings. Ten years later, these women are some of my best friends now. We’ve shared so many fun times and laughs over the years and I look forward to many more.

How to Make Friends as an Adult
My book club at a wedding – some of my favorite people in the world are in this photo.


Join the Vicariously Through You Facebook Group

Joining a Facebook group or two is another great way to meet people and make new friends. There seems to be a Facebook group out there for everyone and every thing – from travel, to entrepreneurs, to moms, to pet owners. You can probably find one on topics you’re interested in.

My favorite Facebook group is one I manage. The Vicariously Through You Facebook group is made up of successful, fun, diverse, open-minded women aged 35-50. The goal is to connect, support and cheer each other on. Careers. Dating. Money. Books. Food. Women’s Health. Exercise. It is all on the table for discussion.

We would love for you to join us! You can do so by clicking here. Once you are approved, make sure to introduce yourself so we can get to know you and feel free to post and comment on other women’s posts. We want to hear from you!

Want to read more? Check out a Letter to My Younger Self. You can also read about a recent date I went on here. Spoiler: It’s a funny story.

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Meet Carmen

I’m Carmen, the founder of this blog and the Vicariously Through You community. I am so glad you’re here!

I currently live in Chicago, IL, USA with my Maltipoo pup, Stella. I am 40-something, single and do not have any children.

When I am not working on this blog and growing the Vicariously Through You community, I work as a Financial Analyst. In my free time, I travel as often as I can, often as a solo traveler. I enjoy rainy days, plain green tea, Chicago Cubs baseball and books with happy endings.

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